Ah, this is a great discussion. We state our opinions, hear those of others. If we are rationale people, we consider them, and perhaps temper or alter our own opinions. Or not.
In any event, I do try to encourage members. I learned this well when Sir Maximus was active and a moderator. He always told me to keep up the good work (as dv8 mentioned about iDad). But my encouragement to PSers also incorporates critical, thoughtful, and sympathetic criticism -- along with exhortation to work hard and improve. Like others, I will explain how I do something, give pointers on maybe an easier way to use PS, demonstrate the results of what I mean by showing images, screen shots, and giving explanations. Many of our members do this and make me very proud of them and happy to have such a great team on the forum at this time. I hope you will grace our presence for a long time. New members see your example and follow it. That is the only way to keep people coming back, knowing they can count on us for help, and giving their own advice when they can.
My 3 Ps or PS are practice, patience, and play. Something most of us are keenly aware of and our submissions show this, especially when we ask for critique and take it to heart. Hershy is new to PS, not to artistic expression, being a painter. He has picked up PS with great enthusiasm. He is a dogged learner, constantly productive, and has produced ever more skillful and ingenious work in a short time. Don't blush kiddo. You're just one example, lol. Not everyone has this ability.
But I agree with Spectrum. Laziness is rampant, not just here on the forum or in PS, but in this modern culture. I don't place labels on people, but the evidence is in our face. Sure, we can make excuses for their beginner status and maybe their pride. But arrogance, closed-mindedness, deafness to critique, if you ask me, is the result of children being coddled and of expecting instant gratification.
As I said before, when I encounter such attitudes and sloppy work, it is my personal decision to just get the heck away from the thread and let others remark on it if they feel the inclination.
I don't agree with trashing members no matter what they display. No mater how tempted to say, holy crap that is crap, I jsut seal my lips, close my eyes, and disappear. That is my individual way to deal with it. Don't. I'm not hiding my head in the sand. I am just not berating someone who may really be an artist. Don't get me started on that subject, or I will bore your eyes out. (art history, looking & seeing, copying masters, doing the work, self-criticism, ruthless self-editing . . . Oh I said I wouldn't lecture!)
So censor and judge all you want, just don't share your nastiness on the forum. As Inkz said, it won't be tolerated. Your remarks will be deleted, and if the behaviour continues, you risk being banned. If you love Photoshop Gurus Forum as I do, you may want to avoid that risk. Just saying.
On one other subject, we do get the most ridiculous of freebie requests sometimes. As mods we do our best to evaluate requests, welcome reports from you guys (click the yellow triangle on the lower left of the reply window, enter your comment, and all us mods and admin will be emailed your report.
By the same token, if I feel a request is harmless, but in my judgment, totally inane, I just clamp myu lips and go elsewhere.
Tolerance is important online, as is discretion. Practice your best to emulate Miss Manners (JK sort of) and speak when you really need to.
If we listen to the Spirit, then we will know when the Spirit Moves Us!