Hi ALB -
I have a suggestion.
If you really want to know how well you are doing in your post-processing, instead of asking us, take a nice picture of one of your close female relatives, process it in your typical "style", show it to her, and ask her if she would mind if you would send it to a few other family members.
If there is no hesitation about doing this on either her part or yours, it means that you are doing well, so just forge ahead as you have been doing.
If, on the other hand, either you or her are hesitant to do this, but you wouldn't hesitate to distribute the unprocessed version of the photo, it means that that your processing has actually degraded the picture, at least in the eyes of the most important person: the subject / client.
Keep repeating this type of test with other pictures and other people, and you will quickly get an idea of just how well you are doing, which technical approaches are the most useful, etc.
Obviously, the whole purpose of this process is defeated if you ask your wife (or other female relative) what they think of one of your tweaks of a photo of an anonymous woman pulled off the internet. It has to be a shot of them, and there has to be an impending distribution of the photo.
In case you are interested, I do exactly what I suggested above: I will often ask my wife's opinion on a tweak where there is any question at all about the quality or appropriateness of the tweak. In fact, this just happened last weekend when we went out with another couple. I took some pix of them, but on reviewing them, realized that the woman had put on quite a bit of weight. I produced several different slimmed-down versions that, to me, all made the woman look much better. However, I still let my wife have the last word about which to send. I would have sent the middle one in the set. My wife went with the one which had just a barely visible amount of slenderizing. Looking back at it, her selection was absolutely right on the mark.
Cheers,
Tom M